Researcher Keli Ryan Steuber is eager to understand why couples who are having trouble getting pregnant adjust how much information they share, based on whether the wife or husband is having reproductive difficulties.
Steuber interviewed 50 couples in depth about the privacy rules that govern discussions with friends and family about the issue. Steuber discovered much greater concern to protect the facts of male infertility and female among these couples.
“It aligns with the idea that couples do more work to maintain the husband’s public persona,” said Steuber, who coauthored two recent papers on the topic with Penn State’s Denise Haunani Soloman.
“For women, it may be a response to our pronatalist culture. There’s an expectation that women want children, and sometimes those who are voluntarily childless are labeled as selfish or too career-driven. We wonder if that stigma overrides the stigma of infertility, to the point that women and their husbands feel compelled to clarify: ‘We’re not choosing to not have children. We can’t have children.’”
Pregnant at NieNie
When I woke up yesterday morning and saw our Stephanie Nielson articles on fire, I knew something was up. Stephanie Nielson’s monumental bravery and true heroine status as a survivor of a fiery plane crash three years ago has captured the hearts and minds of women worldwide.
Perhaps no digitial ‘relationship’ (Stephanie and I have never communicated) has impacted me more, just tracking her recovery and explorations of marriage, family and particularly her relationship with her husband Christian.
Unlike so many American couples, Stephanie and Christian continue to make sizzle a key part of a healthy marriage. With four kids and an incredibly challenging recovery from haveing 80 percent of her body burned, it’s clear that Stephanie and Christian have been making time for sex.
Stephanie is pregnant with her fifth child, a symbol of rebirth for two people who came very close to death, especially Stephanie.