"Sensual and Superyoung" | Anne's Sexual Aging and Vitality Book

Albequerque Bio Park, Mediterranean Garden2005 Health Benefits Manuscript Reborn

I first wrote this manuscript in 2005 in one of my mad cap entrepreneurial ventures with a well-known financier who subsequently ended up in federal court with an IRS tax bill that left me speechless. The public records said $100 million.

His publishing venture died a quick death, and I sat with an 80,000 word manuscript and no business plan.

Without an agent or publisher, my words lay cosy and unruffled in the bottom drawer, never inspiring a soul or getting a laugh. That hurt, because — trust me —  this is a funny read.

What was a revolutionary argument around the health benefits of sex in 2005 has gained traction in the last five years. It’s now or never on the subject, and with my Anne of Carversville and Sensuality News online personas, I believe that readers can help me finish this book.

All the original documents will be uploaded, and we will begin updating the medical research online. Hopefully, you will help. 

As a perfectionist, I never wanted my slip showing in public, only my black hat. 

Now I see the opportunity differently. Our Anne of Carversville journal survived, after some early rambling and heart-wrenching admissions and has grown into a website we are proud of. The same will happen with this manuscript.

Consider these chapters a garden in need of tending but hardly filled with ramshackle structures and bramble bushes. We have lilies and roses — not primroses, sorry — and bouganvilla. And jasmine, we must have that scent, which is my favorite. Except for the peonies, which I adore.

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You and Me | Better Than Dream Angels

Getting To Know You

By my calculations, I’ve spent 200,000 hours trying to understand what makes you tick.  I’ve been a talk show host, a senior executive at Victoria’s Secret stores, a weekly web columnist, a design director, an entrepreneur, a marketer, product developer, senior consultant about women to American business and now an Internet writer/website publisher.

For over 25 years, I’ve spoken with you indirectly about many subjects — but one in particular: sex.

We got to know each other in the all American dream place of Victoria’s Secret, fine lingerie shops in Paris and Vassarette brand at Walmart I share your love for shopping and buying new products that will improve our lives, the ones that help you express the real woman in the mirror.

Pino “Morning Breeze”

American Marketplace

For better and also for worse, I’ve lived my whole life in the world of the American marketplace. Am I corrupt and slightly jaded? Probably, but I’m a realistic optimist with a business conscience and ability to connect with people.

Lingerie is not my only expertise. During the course of a globetrotting, adventurous career, I’ve touched you in other big companies like Avon, DuPont, Johnson & Johnson, Revlon and Lane Bryant.

From London to Bangkok; during a solo morning run through the back streets of Shezen, China; or flying to Zurich, Milan and Paris in a single day, I’ve spent countless hours thinking about desire, human sexuality, and what’s really going on in your bedroom.

More important, I’m always try to connect with your inner urges, dreams and desires, the woman you are when nobody’s looking.

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A Successful Woman's Life In Two Parts

Updated on Mon, August 16, 2010 by Anne

That’s me — the small-town girl with a big-city life. My story is the all-American one:  have a dream; believe in yourself; use your brain; develop street smarts; and make it happen, no excuses. My mantra has always been: good things will come to me, if I follow these simple rules. They did come to me; many times, and this exhilarating trend continues today in my life.

Building an $11 million consumer-focused marketing business and three retail stores brought me to the attention of the folks at Victoria’s Secret. I was featured on the front page of the NYTimes Business section and in USA Today.

At age 45, I was on top of my game. My career at Victoria’s Secret was rich and rewarding. The world was my oyster, as I flew around the globe conducting business in one world capital after another. I’d lived for eight years with a handsome, sexy man, with two wonderful children, who I adored and vice versa.

If you met me on the road of life, you would say: “That woman has everything going for her.”

I did — in some respects.

When I first wrote this manuscript, the next words to flow from my keyboard focused on a history of strange illnesses. Now those words bore me and take the focus off of you — the object of my desires.

Like many of you, there is also a dark side to my story.

Today I understand why my immune system has malfunctioned three times over three decades. In each case, at 28, 32 and 45, I found myself dramatically ill with different symptoms that we now believe were part of the same “disease”.

Only in my last debilitating illness, did I finally discover the real reasons for my health emergencies. The diagnosis alone of my 1995 medical condition cost $32,000, It was only my last doctor, Thomas M. O’Dorisio MD, who accurately understood the problem.

“Guilt and self-loathing, connected to the patient’s ongoing life pattern of paving over significant emotional and psychological potholes” are not words that doctors write on their diagnosis pad.

In my case, Dr. O’Dorisio wrote “extreme stress” and “unusually high” next to my cortisol levels. “It’s anticlimactic, I know,” Dr. ‘Odo’ counseled me, “given the dramatic physical illness you’re experiencing.”

Smiling Damsel In Distress

Not really. This was far better than illness number one, when the doctor hospitalized me on the spot. Terrified I asked “Am I going to live?”  With an honest, take-no-prisoners bedside manner, he murmured eyeball to eyeball: “I can’t answer that question. “

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