Can Women Make a Decision to Feel Sexual Desire?

“What makes women think that halfway through the game they can change the rules to suit themselves and expect the male to take it?”

We’re talking sex in marriage here.

Australian sex therapist Bettina Arndt is the scourge of the feminist Internet for the point of view expressed in her latest book “The Sex Diaries”.

Arndt puts the subject of female sexual desire in an interesting new spotlight: desire as decision and not the last item of a woman’s overflowing To Do list.

Many women won’t like Arndt’s Truth Serum approach to a couple’s sex life, suggesting that women are totally unrealistic in expecting their husband’s to grovel for sex. In her survey of 100 Australian couples, who kept sex diaries for months, she found that only 10 percent of women expressed an appetite for sex that exceeded their husband’s.

Understanding that her point of view infuriates many women, Arndt nevertheless suggests that women  ‘get real’ about the differences in desire that plague modern marriages and relationships. by granting men a fair hearing on this problem, as opposed to trashing the male gender for wanting what is biologically a fundamental need of their everyday existence.

Arndt’s book “The Sex Diaries” should make for interesting reading, and even more relevant conversation about modern marriage — if we let it, of course.Verbal as we are, we women have a way of limiting conversation on this critical aspect of modern marriage. Anne