Anne Says: "The Research is Rubbish! I Promise To Help You Find Your G-Spot"
Edited at 10:30 am, removing any references to body size or physical dexterity in finding our G-spots without the aid of a masturbation tool, fingers only.
I know for a fact that a G-spot exists. I’ve found mine exactly as described by Dr. Beverly Whipple — about the size of a quarter, and noticeably rougher, spongy tissue, located per diagram in Daily Mail.
Do not believe the new anti G-spot headlines.
If a sophisticated, adult woman must admit to masturbation and physical self-exploration to counter these new anti-G-spot headlines, I will do so.
Trust me on this one. The G-spot exists.
Unlike the clitoris, the G-spot hardly waves at you in your search.
I don’t understand that twins (same genetic material) are a confirming source of this new research, with all the psychological, moral, emotional and cultural pressures on female sexuality. Women are notorious for not exploring our own bodies.
The press doesn’t detail the research, which may be as unscientific as asking twins if they have g-spots and publishing their answers. A lack of consistency among the twins’ answers invalidates the research.
The only valid research in my playbook is physically, emotionally and psychologically working with women to find their g-spots and when they can’t, then publish the results.
If women were more comfortable touching their genitals, they could confirm Dr. Beverly Whipple’s (who I know personally) decades-old G-spot discovery.
Now we need an Internet G-Spot petition that says “I found mine”.
Wait — I have a thought. Another friend of mine, the erotic director Candida Royalle, has designed a superb line of sexual aids, the Natural Contours products. (No this is not a clever advertorial, and I am an Amazon affiliate.)
Candida Royalle brought her Kegel exerciser as a hostess dinner gift to me two years ago, and it’s perfect for a woman to find her G-spot, all by herself. The shape alone is great, because longer fingers are required to find a G-spot if you’re searching manually — at least in my body. For me, only the longest finger will find my G-spot. There, is this enough literal information for medical researchers!
Ladies, I mean it. Do not let go of your G-spot. Very seriously, I’m contacting my friends to see what can be done here.
If I believed in conspiracy theories, I would suggest that this no-G-spot research is another move to suppress women’s sexuality, which we’ve worked so hard to get out of Pandora’s box. Anne
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Reader Comments (4)
I am a g-spot obese masturbating woman. I found your article to be condescending.
Sorry, Amanda. I find us unable to talk openly about weight in America, and I've been 32 BMI at one time in my life.
Based on your implied assertion that body size has nothing to do with a woman's physical ability to find her G-spot, I will edit my thought. In my personal experience, I found the physical logistics difficult without an aid like Candida's. I would rather edit my writing and admit error, only so that women remain positive about finding their G-spots, once and for all.
Having invited input, I wish you would have used the opportunity to encourage women and educate me, rather than fault me for taking the risk of not being politically correct on an important topic.
If I appear 'pompous' talking about American women's lack of comfort with our bodies, there the research is overwhelmingly on my side, and I don't apologize.
I'm spent most of my career watching women struggle with feeling good about our sexual selves. Decades of positive coaching starting in the seventies haven't managed to make American women feel positive about exploring our own sexual anatomy. If I appear to use an overbearing, tough love approach on this topic, it's only because encouraging, affirming words don't seem to have accomplished much for American women.
Reality is that we're losing ground.
Major forces want to deny our positive sexuality -- together, alone -- however we enjoy it as long as children aren't involved. A growing religious emphasis on modesty and sexual denial has me very concerned as a professional and as a friend to women of every size.
To readers -- I consulted to Lane Bryant for years without a complaint about my views on obesity, although I admit to being critically concerned about the nation's health statistics. You might not like Love Potions either, where we promote healthy eating but also publish new research about weight and health.
I fought body image problems for years -- just like so many other women. I know how I felt about the woman in the mirror and I write personally about my own journey to embrace her. I would give anything to have back the years I spend worrying about being called condescending and wanting not to offend anyone. Now I just try to be me, which is all any woman should try to be.
If we ladies stopped trying to mold ourselves to everyone else's version of our best selves, we'd all be better off.
Thanks for commenting. Peace only. Anne
I looked at the diagram and I don't think the G is in the right spot!!!!
Sorry I should have added a friend once said to me "Thats the right spot!". Maybe it should be called the 'R" spot?