RedTracker| Researchers at UC Berkeley analyzed conversations between 154 mid-life couples, carely noting those who used pronouns such as ‘we”, “our” and “us” vs “I”, “me”, and “you”. Those who used the collective “we” words were better able to resolve conflicts than those who didn’t. Especially as couples aged, the pronoun category became even more important.
“Individuality is a deeply ingrained value in American society, but, at least in the realm of marriage, being part of a ‘we’ is well worth giving up a bit of ‘me,’” said UC Berkeley psychology professor Robert Levenson, a co-author of the study published last semester in the journal Psychology and Aging. via Science Daily